Thief Of Joy

There are many thieves of Joy and one of them is maintaining a social media account.

Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Snapchat .. all included.

The life portrayed of the internet is nothing like the reality, it’s just a compilation of the best or even a little bit fake type of life.

This brings serious mental health dilemmas in some brains, “Am I not good enough? He has a perfect life, mine sucks!”

Seeing other people enjoying (or pretending to enjoy) makes you question yourself and fall into the trap. And these thoughts are self-destructing because you don’t know the story behind it. 

Comparison has always been a thief of joy and social media makes it easier to compare. It’s simple, my account versus yours. It makes you participate in a never-ending race that practically doesn’t exist.

The feeling of you being inferior or someone being superior than you is extremely devastating for the mental and emotional health of a human being.

It takes out everything from you – the amusement, the joy goes away when you compare and it becomes all about being better, not happier. 

One Thing at a Time

The corona-era has effected the productivity of the most of the people I know.

Having a lot of free time might make us think that we are a joker in the circus juggling tons of balls with the utmost ease but believe me, you aren’t that joker.

Have to do multiple things at the same time just leaves you confused and worst, you start procrastinating and get nothing done!

Here’s a very interesting concept called SDR (Single Daily Action) which asks you to set just one goal which you want to accomplish in the day.

You don’t have to do just one thing but clear out and decide the most important thing that has to worked upon in the day.

This way, you are eating the monster and then you can break the goal into smaller to-do’s (or the bite sized pieces so you can eat the monster more easily).

The idea behind this concept says that our brain gets tired looking at an unrealistically long list of things to do and deep down you know that everything can’t be done.

Moreover, isn’t it just as lot less burden and stress to know exactly what has to be done. Keeping things clear and simple is the key!

Actionable and things that can be done in a small amount of time helps you to live in the present so you aren’t stressed about something that has to be done in a few days or few weeks.

If you’re struggling with a long de-moralizing to-do list, I invite you today to adopt Single Daily Action and do just one thing at a time.

Feed the good wolf

In continuation to my previous post, feeding the good wolf (focusing on the positive things) is extremely important, here are a few ways you can do so:

1. Be Kind to Yourself  –

Recognize your emotions, instead of hiding them.

2. Open up to a trusted friend 

or family member or write down your negative thoughts on a piece of paper.

3. Smile More – 

When you smile, your brain releases tiny molecules to help fight off stress. These chemicals act as a mild pain reliever and help to reduce your anxiety and stress in minute. I too believe in the concept of “faking it till you make it”

4. Practice Gratitude – 

Be grateful for the food you eat, the medication you’re receiving, your family or any small thing that contributed to make your life better. It makes you feel lucky for what you have and forget what you don’t have or desire.

5. Live in the Moment – 

Just think about ‘today’, thinking about what will happen in future will not only make you stressed but also spoil your present. Live in the moment and let god handle the rest.

The Story of Two Wolves

An old man tells his grandson that “My son, the battle is between two wolves that live inside all of us.“ One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thinks about it for a while and says, “Which wolf wins?”The grandfather replies, “The one you feed”.

Life is never perfect! We all have bad days and situations that absolutely suck but if we focus on the positive thoughts (aka good wolf), it wins and so does the positive vibes and wonderful feelings but overthinking and feeding the eveil wolf only causes wastage of time and us being sad and depressed. The choice is yours, which wolf do you want to feed?