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  • False Thoughts

    Oct 16, 2020

    Overthinking ruins you, it makes you imagine situations which don’t exist and gives you the unnecessary stress and tension for no reason.

    It’s the art of creating problems that aren’t even there and comes out to be the biggest cause of all our problems.

    Thinking too much about your past or something that will happen in the future puts you in an unhealthy state of mind.

    Thinking, thinking and thinking, your brain isn’t a machine and life is not perfect. Also, overthinking about things will not change the outcome.

    Whatever happens, happens and we should learn to go with the flow.
    There are some things you just can’t control and assuming false situations and negative thoughts is atrocious, distract yourself for some time with the things you love : movies, shows, songs or activities like dancing or singing, whatever you like doing.

    Think about what can go right not what can go wrong.

    Talk to someone about it and take their advice because when you talk to someone and say it out loud, you realize how less of a problem it is and how much you were wasting your time thinking about it. And lastly, remind yourself that everything will turn out to be okay at the end of the day.

    Empty your mind of false thoughts and fill it with the positive vibes. It’s a choice, no magic.

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  • Cultivating Kindness

    Oct 15, 2020

    I think that we all can agree that nobody loses by giving, no one has ever become poor by offering.

    As human beings, our minds are constantly being polluted by the selfish devil who lives inside, he asks you to become self-centred and thoughtless and care just about yourself ignoring the other people around you.

    He tells you to feel happy that nothing is happening to you and develop an insensitive nature.

    Ask yourself right now, what act of kindness have I done today/yesterday or even this whole week? 

    Being selfless isn’t exceptional, it’s a part of how a human being should be! Giving others more of your time and energy and giving out joy is a gift everyone can afford.

    I highly recommend to take a sheet of paper and each day before going to bed, write down just one act of kindness you did and slowly it will turn into a habit.

    Consciously remind yourself daily that you need to be show compassion and affection to the people around you.

    And remember not to consider it as a transaction, don’t think if or how you will be repaid because then you’re doing it for your own motive, not for others.

    Be the person who makes others feel included and remember that kindness always matters.

    Treat people the way you want to be treated. Karma is real.

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  • Delightfully Difficult

    Oct 13, 2020

    That’s it, delightfully difficult.

    Two words which are totally opposite from each other, delightful (pleasant, causing delight) and difficult (hardships, problems) but today I wanted you to invite you to take your difficulties in a delightful way.

    This oxymoron is all about your perception towards things that matters in how you deal with it.

    While being positive may not give you an instant knowledge boost or get your work done in an unrealistic amount of time.

    It changes how you interpret the problem and does affect the way you tackle it.

    The way you approach them is important as your brain puts a ‘label’ on things, some are labelled as simple and the others as difficult. Some are labelled as ‘enjoyable’ and the others are ‘boring’.

    Now you have to be the master of labelling, you have to label even the hardest thing as delightfully difficult. It’s difficult but I’m going to handle it delightfully. Why? Becuase it’s fun.

    Also, an important thing to remember here is that obscurities can be easily overcome with an optimistic attitude but not with blind eyes solely dependent on confidence. 

    You have to be practical, cheerful and give your best attempt to turn your tasks to delightfully difficult and relish the process while tackling them.

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  • Busy Doing Nothing

    Oct 12, 2020

    “When are you free?”
    – “I have a presentation to make for office, a client meeting to attend, school homework to do or the extra credit work so I can get the grades I want.”

    Aren’t we just always busy with something? There is always something next to do on the list.

    It’s like going on vacations where there’s no stress, just you and your thoughts relaxing.

    No work, no technology, no distractions, just you.

    Do nothing for 30 mins a week or on the first Saturday every month.

    Being busy with tons of work does not make you productive.

    Taking the break rejuvenates your mind and you’re be able to do much better after you’ve taken a break than your tired head who is always busy doing everything but cannot spare some time for doing nothing.

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  • Thief Of Joy

    Oct 11, 2020

    There are many thieves of Joy and one of them is maintaining a social media account.

    Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Snapchat .. all included.

    The life portrayed of the internet is nothing like the reality, it’s just a compilation of the best or even a little bit fake type of life.

    This brings serious mental health dilemmas in some brains, “Am I not good enough? He has a perfect life, mine sucks!”

    Seeing other people enjoying (or pretending to enjoy) makes you question yourself and fall into the trap. And these thoughts are self-destructing because you don’t know the story behind it. 

    Comparison has always been a thief of joy and social media makes it easier to compare. It’s simple, my account versus yours. It makes you participate in a never-ending race that practically doesn’t exist.

    The feeling of you being inferior or someone being superior than you is extremely devastating for the mental and emotional health of a human being.

    It takes out everything from you – the amusement, the joy goes away when you compare and it becomes all about being better, not happier. 

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  • One Thing at a Time

    Oct 10, 2020

    The corona-era has effected the productivity of the most of the people I know.

    Having a lot of free time might make us think that we are a joker in the circus juggling tons of balls with the utmost ease but believe me, you aren’t that joker.

    Have to do multiple things at the same time just leaves you confused and worst, you start procrastinating and get nothing done!

    Here’s a very interesting concept called SDR (Single Daily Action) which asks you to set just one goal which you want to accomplish in the day.

    You don’t have to do just one thing but clear out and decide the most important thing that has to worked upon in the day.

    This way, you are eating the monster and then you can break the goal into smaller to-do’s (or the bite sized pieces so you can eat the monster more easily).

    The idea behind this concept says that our brain gets tired looking at an unrealistically long list of things to do and deep down you know that everything can’t be done.

    Moreover, isn’t it just as lot less burden and stress to know exactly what has to be done. Keeping things clear and simple is the key!

    Actionable and things that can be done in a small amount of time helps you to live in the present so you aren’t stressed about something that has to be done in a few days or few weeks.

    If you’re struggling with a long de-moralizing to-do list, I invite you today to adopt Single Daily Action and do just one thing at a time.

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  • Feed the good wolf

    Oct 9, 2020

    In continuation to my previous post, feeding the good wolf (focusing on the positive things) is extremely important, here are a few ways you can do so:

    1. Be Kind to Yourself  –

    Recognize your emotions, instead of hiding them.

    2. Open up to a trusted friend 

    or family member or write down your negative thoughts on a piece of paper.

    3. Smile More – 

    When you smile, your brain releases tiny molecules to help fight off stress. These chemicals act as a mild pain reliever and help to reduce your anxiety and stress in minute. I too believe in the concept of “faking it till you make it”

    4. Practice Gratitude – 

    Be grateful for the food you eat, the medication you’re receiving, your family or any small thing that contributed to make your life better. It makes you feel lucky for what you have and forget what you don’t have or desire.

    5. Live in the Moment – 

    Just think about ‘today’, thinking about what will happen in future will not only make you stressed but also spoil your present. Live in the moment and let god handle the rest.

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  • The Story of Two Wolves

    Oct 8, 2020

    An old man tells his grandson that “My son, the battle is between two wolves that live inside all of us.“ One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

    The grandson thinks about it for a while and says, “Which wolf wins?”The grandfather replies, “The one you feed”.

    Life is never perfect! We all have bad days and situations that absolutely suck but if we focus on the positive thoughts (aka good wolf), it wins and so does the positive vibes and wonderful feelings but overthinking and feeding the eveil wolf only causes wastage of time and us being sad and depressed. The choice is yours, which wolf do you want to feed?

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